On August 24, 2019
- To be able to see the world as others see it – this requires putting our stuff aside to see the situation through the eyes of a loved one.
- To be nonjudgemental – judgement of another person’s situation discounts the experience and is an attempt to protect ourselves from the pain of the situation.
- To understand another person’s feelings – we need to be in touch with our personal feelings in order to understand someone else’s. This also requires putting aside “us” to focus on our loved one.
- To communicate our understanding of that person’s feelings – rather than saying, “At least…” or “It could be worse…” try, “I’ve been there, and that really hurts,” or “It sounds like you are in a hard place now. Tell me more about it.”
Empathy is a choice, and “it’s a vulnerable choice“.